How to talk to people

A couple of weeks ago I was waiting in line, I know this doesn’t sound like an interesting story but hear me out... I was in line and I always try to make conversation with those around me (yeah, I am that person), especially since I am trying to get to know more people in the area. I began having a conversation with someone about my love for music and a bit about my blog Although this usually makes me feel a little weird when I mention it to someone but it is usually the follow up after, “I love Texas Country”. During the conversation a friend of theirs handed me over her business card, she felt that I could potentially qualify for a job position. I am not entirely sure, what it was that made her feel like this, and at the time I did not pay much attention to it. I just thanked her and continued with my conversation. A couple of minutes later, after I had calmed down from the excitement/awkwardness about sharing my blog, I gave more noticed to the card. Honestly, I doubt that I could have found a better job option myself!

It amazes how everything works out and how there is always a greater plan. Personally, I love being able to share this story with others. Usually the follow up questions, is “how?” “What did she hear that made them give you the card?”…thing is, I am not even sure. Everything happened very fast like I said, but I keep replaying the whole thing and I have come up with some “tips” or “ideas” to keep in mind, You know? in case you want to get a business card or job opportunity offered. 

Don’t be afraid

Now, I know it can be a bit scary to talk to strangers, and technically shouldn’t be doing it from what my mom used to tell me. BUT, if you are going to be waiting in line for 30 minutes or so with the same people making conversation with them is a good thing! Whether you are in line at a store, at a concert, for a movie etc you already have one thing in common with them use that to your advantage. You never really know what could come out of it.

Share what you love

Obviously the easiest thing would be to talk about something that makes you excited, something you love. When you are excited about something, people usually tend to get excited as well. Sometimes, I have found that the person already shares my excitement (for the music, or movie, or sale etc) but for some reason they happen to be shy about sharing it. And if for whatever reason the person you are trying to talk to does not seem interested well just don’t take it personal.

Be Yourself

More than anything be yourself. At least for me authenticity is what I love the most about meeting new people. Also, in regards to the job opportunity, I was a bit unsure as to why anyone would suggest it for me especially since I was just being myself. In many cases, being yourself is all it takes. Next time you have to face a situation where you being to think “Maybe I am not good enough” “Maybe I am too serious” or “too cheery” or too whatever….just remember, you being “too” whatever it is, is what sets you apart from others.

We live in a time where not everyone is necessary social and people tend to believe that we have less social skills. I can understand them though, being able to have conversations with someone in person can be scary but it shouldn’t be. Maybe these tips won’t get you a job or even a job opportunity however they can help build connections and maybe even begin friendships.

Personally,are you someone who will just stick to themselves when in a large group? Or do you usually try to talk to someone? Or maybe you do not try, but would be willing to have a conversation with someone just for the sake of not being bored? Let me know, and if you have tips of your own send them my way!